About a year ago, my life changed forever: I became a mother of a son. After my maternity leave, I was - to be honest - quite reluctant to go back to work. How was I going to combine caring for my son with my demanding and responsible job as a personal injury lawyer? It felt like a huge challenge.
But, fortunately, the startup went a lot better than I thought it would. I enjoyed seeing and talking to my clients again. It gave me satisfaction to be there for someone other than my own family. It felt good to be more a part of society again.
Yet I am not the same lawyer I was before my child was born.
The worst thing you can think of as a parent
As a parent, you want to protect your child from anything that can hurt, physically and emotionally. The thought of something happening to your child is unbearable. Yet in my work I regularly assist parents who experience exactly that: their son or daughter has personal injury incurred by a accident or medical error. Or something goes wrong during birth, causing a child and/or mother to be injury up. Those are moments when your world stops for a moment. My colleagues and I understand how great the impact of this is. How important it is to receive recognition and support during such an intense period in your life.
My role as both lawyer and mother
What I understand better now - after more than 10 years as a lawyer - is how profound the impact is on the entire family. It's not just about medical care or financial compensation, but also the mental and emotional impact. Parents have to hold up even more plates and feel they have little control over the situation. The personal injury system is complex. I think it is important to support parents in this, so that they can fully focus on caring for their child.
The resilience of children
Because with the right support, care and guidance, I see how those little children, my clients, recover after a violent event. Children are so resilient.
In conclusion
For me, motherhood has brought a new perspective to my work. It has deepened my empathy and strengthened my determination to help victims (small and large) to the best of my ability.
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